The 5 Love Languages®. A Teen's Guide to the 5 Love Languages The 5 Love Languages and the Alzheimer's Journey A 5 Love Languages Discovery Book (Ages ). With a little help from The 5 Love Languages®, you can learn to identify the root of your The Bestselling Book That Started It All Books by Gary Chapman.
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The Five Love Languages Gift Edition was designed with gift givers in mind. If you've benefited from the Five Love Languages books and want to pass along the. I read The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, The 5 Love Languages, How Not to Hate. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a book Since , Chapman has written several books related to The Five Love Languages, including The Five Love Languages of Children in
There doesn't need to be a whole book about this theory much less several , the following paragraph would suffice: There are five major ways tha I know what you're thinking There are five major ways that people prefer to be loved: So there they are, the five love languages. Figure out which one is your partner's hint: There it is, in a nutshell. It's an amazing theory that I think is mostly true and will work wonders in relationships.
You're welcome. I hope Chapman doesn't sue me. View 1 comment. Oct 01, Donna rated it really liked it Shelves: I've read a few of Gary Chapman's books, and I even own a couple of them. This one was written especially for men and the little interview with the author at the end, even mentions he tried to give it a manly cover. As with most books of this nature, I feel I have to sift through what is given This book was no different. Some of this was useful, some of it wasn't. I like his emphasis on strengthening relationships.
Everyone has the ability to improve an I've read a few of Gary Chapman's books, and I even own a couple of them. Everyone has the ability to improve any relationship, but bottom line, they have to be willing to put the other person first. Sometimes this means reaching out of your comfy little box. He illustrates his 5 major points well and gives helpful ideas for application.
I am not a reader of self help books, but this book came recommended to me as a text that is helpful in the areas of communication with a lover or a spouse and can have a drastic impact in many areas of my relationships. While I think that this book says many valuable things, there are also some places that I think that this book is complete nonsense and totally misses the mark. First, trying to figure out what you best respond to and what your spouse or lover best responds to is definitely an imp I am not a reader of self help books, but this book came recommended to me as a text that is helpful in the areas of communication with a lover or a spouse and can have a drastic impact in many areas of my relationships.
First, trying to figure out what you best respond to and what your spouse or lover best responds to is definitely an important aspect of any relationship.
Furthermore, define what you want and understand what they want is really important, otherwise your efforts are wasted, and your concept of what you think is compatible is just based on some metric that you have devised rather than truth. There is a quiz to figure out what you are.
Then you take it, and your spouse or lover takes theirs, and you start trying to figure out what the other person needs. This book says some awesome things about relationships as well. One is that there is no magic to it, and that there is no fairytale perfect person. Rather, we are able to build our relationship with anyone, and there are things that you can do to keep the relationship and the intimacy strong through communicating in the right way with the other person.
Makes sense - you just need to figure out what they need. That said, it misses the mark in many places, and I think the book could have either been more clinical OR a lot shorter and the skills fit on a pamphlet that can be read in a sitting.
I was somewhat disillusioned and confused when I got to the chapter that seemed to lay out a scenario where there was a woman who was deeply religious, went to church every week, and her husband ignored her for months, and she hated sex. The solution in this anecdote, totally open ended, started with quoting Jesus and somehow Jesus wanting her to please her husband even if she hated him and hated sex, and that if her intentions were good it would all work out.
I read voraciously, and know myself, and felt dumb reading it if only for those reasons. Finally, I come from a somewhat dysfunctional childhood, and at times I was wishing that some of this was as easy as that.
I am not saying that a book needs to specifically address trauma and assume everyone has some sort of complex, but at the same rate in many ways our childhood has a lot to do with my reactions to things. That said, the chapter about receiving gifts, and seeing them as an investment in me and my relationship rather than an investment in the thing, really hit home.
Poverty can really mess you up. So, my review is simple. The book has a lot of great things to say about communication with your spouse and using a system of cues the languages to figure out what they need and expect from the relationship. Oftentimes we miss this information and do a bad job communicating it, and it is through recognizing this that we can figure out what we expect from ourselves, and what our significant other expects from us. There was some really interesting realistic stuff the author presented you can fall in love with anyone, television may relax you but it is not quality time , but alongside some really weird inclusions pray, go to church, a good gift is naming a star after someone from one of those shyster companies, among other suggestions, and an absolute dearth of anecdotal evidence.
I also think that the avoidance of physical intimacy - rather than the importance of sex it suggests that just putting your arm around one another or touching a shoulder and explaining sex as a mysterious pseudoscience of emotional literacy - was strange. In short, it was okay, but I could have gotten the gist of it in a tenth of the pages. View 2 comments.
This is one of those books that while you are reading it you think to yourself "well of course" and "I knew that". Yet at the same time realizing that you've never really considering the ideas that Chapman presents about the way two people express and more importantly receive love from one another.
I pretty quickly discovered that my primary love language is definitely Words of Affirmation. Most men, and Chapman points this out often, assume they operate from the Physical Touch language but that This is one of those books that while you are reading it you think to yourself "well of course" and "I knew that". Most men, and Chapman points this out often, assume they operate from the Physical Touch language but that is usually not the case.
But what I enjoyed more than figure out my primary language was that it also allowed me to appreciate when the other languages are expressed to me that I would have otherwise not noticed. I think every one should read this or the original though I didn't think this edition was too focused on the male perspective but especially those that are engaged or newly married such as myself.
View all 3 comments. Apr 01, Alex Herder rated it it was amazing. This should replace Algebra in every middle school curriculum in the world. How to appropriately show love to the people you care about might be the single most important concept a human can understand and yet it wasn't until I read this book that I was able to get my head around gifting, touch, and affirmation.
Thank you Gary Chapman. I am going to be thinking of the 5 love languages from now until I die hopefully surrounded by people I love and that know that I love them. Mar 11, Daniel E. The book focuses on treating your loved one wife in this edition as she would want to be treated. The author keeps the focus on the reader to do the right thing and to do it with kindness, love and respect. This approach was refreshing and resonated with me on many levels.
This edition was written for men but is broadly applicable in its themes. Apr 29, Tom rated it really liked it. The contents is actually quite "yes I actually know this" when you read it, but in reality, you never think about it, and it does matter.
I needed to read this to get over past issues, and prevent future ones, it helped a little with understanding some things. Mar 20, Ellis rated it liked it Shelves: Let me just say one thing about this book. It claims itself to be a special edition for men. Well, I don't know what type of man this author is used to maybe one that doesn't like to keep any dormant mushy side from being exposed to the world , but just because this book has a brown cover doesn't make it very "manly".
I don't have many other books in my library that have big hearts with arrows through them on the cover.
Every, and I mean EVERY, new chapter has the same big sweetie-pie picture on the left-hand page opposite the text on the right. This was a real double whammy for me since I had to use one arm to cover up the sappy picture and the other hand to cover up whatever embarassing words made up the title of the new chapter of this fine work.
Let's just say that this book didn't make mee feel my manliest as I read it on the train each day. I'm not sure that I was able to hide the subject of my reading. That's okay, I followed up this book with one on fighting to get my manly credentials back. I would give the philosophy behind the book [series] a 5; the book itself a 4, landing it at a 4.
Putting a measurable reason behind discrepancies in how couples communicate affection is outstanding. Finally being able to know how to best show my wife that I love her is only going to strengthen our marriage.
I will say that the the author's phraseology is geared toward someone with no prior knowledge of psychology, which is good and bad. Since I know a little bit, it did make this book a little I would give the philosophy behind the book [series] a 5; the book itself a 4, landing it at a 4.
Since I know a little bit, it did make this book a little harder to read, but I would still recommend it to anyone. I imagine you can help more people speaking more simply than not, since even seasoned readers on this type of subject will be able to digest it while others wouldn't have a chance otherwise. Definitely a great book! Jun 09, Shane Knauss rated it really liked it. Ok so here is the thing!
Gary Chapman has an amazing concept with much info on loving one another. I bought this books after reading his original thinking it would have more male tailored advice I was wrong. This book is literally just a copy on his original with about 20 pgs in it tht outline ideas for how men can do things for their wives!! So learn from my mistake, if you have read the original don't waste the money Ok so here is the thing!
So learn from my mistake, if you have read the original don't waste the money on this copy. If you haven't read his book, and are a man, download this copy because you ll get the original plus some! Sep 29, ofits rated it it was amazing Shelves: Except for the cover and the suggestions at the end of each chapter that are catered to men, this book seems to be identical to the original The Five Love Languages.
Sound advice in a quick read.
Sep 13, Brett rated it it was amazing. A must-read for all married men and those considering marriage. Apr 18, Dr. Nov 02, Bernd Schiffer rated it really liked it Shelves: Great model, not only for couples and children, but also for relationships in general, private or business. Bonus for the audiobook: Like eleven million other Americans literally! I remembered what it said about me quality time!
I was young and dumb. These days, my wife and I are several years into marriage, new jobs, and parenthood. Each chapter includes some tangible ideas and summaries. The back half of the book includes tips on how to healthily deal with anger, how to apologize, and other issues. I was afraid this section would be filler, but I think the anger and apologies section both had useful advice.
I would recommend this book, or some iteration, to anyone trying to be a better partner. So, in our experience, the advice works! Nov 16, Natasha rated it really liked it.
This is a easy to read book with eye-opening material. It focuses on the five love languages: It is specifically written for men to help them learn to recognize their own love language and also their wife's.
It gives tips on how to communicate the love language to create a happier marriage. I was about halfway through the book when I realized that this is men's edition and I am not a man. However, I s This is a easy to read book with eye-opening material. However, I still enjoyed reading it. It helped me understand how men struggle with love languages because it was written in a mans perspective and for men.
One of the books strengths is that it included personal stories of the applications of the love languages.
There is a quiz in the book to help you figure out you and your spouses love language. Throughout the book, there are also lists of things to do to speak your spouses love language. I think this is helpful to the reader because they can actually see how to speak someones love language in practical, everyday things.
This book also helped me realize that my love language is "receiving gifts. If the wear and tear of a library book are any indication of its success, this one hits it out of the park.
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus was the wildly popular self-help book from the s that predicated marital success on understanding the fundamental differences between the sexes. The book dishes out advice in cheeky language that describe men as Martians and women as Venusians. Twenty-seven years later, this book feels not only antiquated but sexist. In one example, Gray describes men as having the desire to problem-solve and give advice to women, while women just want to feel heard.
He even states that men are more goal-oriented. In our marriage, the opposite is almost always true. Nineties fashion might be back, but there is nothing cool about this retro attitude to gender roles in relationships. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has provided a blueprint for successful relationships and been adopted by countless therapists for years.
But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feeling about each other which everyone has from overwhelming the positives ones.
In his book, Gottman uses this example: While this bird-bid may not seem like a big deal, it can reveal whether the couple is in mastery territory or heading for the big D. Gottman says that this action—silly or otherwise—prevents negativity from escalating out of control and is a secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples. There are so many valuable real-life lessons that resonated with us in this book we even bought the workbooks after reading it!